3 Powerful Secrets to End Your Relationship Woes
Everyone you’re in relationship with, whether it’s your partner, a family member, or even a co-worker, serves as a REFLECTION of the sum total of your beliefs in that area. Hence, if someone is being challenging, the first thing you need to do to make things better is to look at you… YES YOU! If you believe that they are always difficult, distant, or unreceptive to you, then they will only and ALWAYS reflect that kind of energy back to you.
Now, you may be thinking “Uh Morgan, it is not my fault that this person is showing up as a total @)#*$*% in my world.” and I feel you, I really do. But, I promise you that you are an intricate part of this equation, as it takes two to tango. And, without you showing up to the scenario, their difficult nature would need to find a new dance partner to tango with.
That said, kicking this person to the curb may not be an option – at least in this moment. So, I want to share with you 3 POWERFUL secrets that are sure to put some peace and happiness back into your relationship.
- What we seek, we find :: Have you ever heard that what you focus on grows? Well, it’s true! And if you’re constantly looking for all the ways this person mistreats you, I guarantee you’re going to find them. So, the first thing I’m going to invite you to do is write out a list of at least 10 things you like about this person in an email to you, which you can read over and again so it really sinks in. This way you’re directing your mind to look for all that’s good in them – which will increase the quality of your relationship.
- If you can’t tell a story – you can’t sell the vision :: Our lives are all about stories. The ones we read in books, watch in movies, and the ones we play over and again in our head. And, a major place where relationships go “wrong” is when one person expects the other to understand their ideas and stories about happiness, without adequately expressing them. So, the next time you need to go face-to-face with this person, get clear on your vision first, so that you can share it better in the moment. And, if you find that you’re the type who gets tongue-tied under pressure, write out a list of those things that are most important.
- What you put out, comes back – 7 FOLD :: As I stated earlier, everything in your world, including relationships, serve as a reflection of what’s going on inside your head. Accordingly, the best thing you can do to improve your relationship is to take better care of you so that you’re personally feeling satisfied with your life. When you’re feeling happy, cheerful, and on top-of-the-world, it is easier to not take take the other person’s difficult nature so personally – increasing your ability to be happy in the relationship.