ASK MYS. MORGAN ON FACEBOOK LIVE

    ask-mys-morgan-facebook-live

New Episodes every Monday + Wednesday

FOLLOW US ::
MEET MORGAN      
MENTORING      
LOVE NOTES      

LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS

You Don’t Have to Say “YES” to Every Request

You Don't Have to Say YES - Morgan McKean - Intuitive Healer

I’m sure you know on an intellectual level that it’s okay to say “No.” when someone makes a request of you that you really don’t want to do. However, no matter how we rationalize it, most women, myself included, seem to have a bit of a challenge when someone pulls on us emotionally. 

Madly in Love with Me

 

As you may know, part of my goal as an Intuitive & Transformational Mentor is to always be aware of the latest in spiritual, philosophical and scientific ideas that will help my clients experience love, success and happiness.  One area that I find that many people struggle with is creating healthy ideas about self-compassion, or real self-love; the kind that allows you to be your own cheerleader when the going gets tough.  Therefore, I was thrilled when I recently had the opportunity to read Christine Arylo’s new book “Madly in Love with Me”, which is just a part of her bigger campaign about self-love and becoming your own best friend.

To give you a little glimpse into why Marci Shimoff, bestselling author of “Love for No Reason” calls Christine the ‘Queen of Self-Love’, as she has agreed to let me share with you the following blog post about how to be nice to yourself.

Be Nice To Yourself
It’s Hard to Be Happy When Someone’s Mean To You All the Time

Every day you have tens of thousands of thoughts run through your mind. The vast majority of them are negative. And too often, that negativity is directed at the one person who deserves it least – you. It’s okay to admit, you are harder on yourself than anyone else could be. You beat yourself up for all the things you think you should do better, should be able to get done in a day, should be able to figure out. You blame yourself and judge yourself way more than you acknowledge and appreciate yourself.

You Don’t Have to Show up to Every Debate You’re Invited To

I’ve said it before, and I will definitely say it again, “There are as many ways to live life as there are people living it.” Therefore, to argue or debate with people about certain ideas and concepts  that they hold to be true, in most cases, is simply a waste of your time. You see, each one of us believes what we believe because of the programming we’ve received thus far in our lives.

A New Way to Love Through “Bad Behavior”

 

When a human being is demonstrating what we call “bad behavior”, our natural instinct is for us to punish them, to reflect our anger, frustration or disappointment in their choice, and usually not through the most gentle and loving means. When we choose to respond with the weight of our anger and disappointment, we are also choosing to exacerbate the situation through the now heightened fear in both parties, causing even more separation between us and the person we’re trying to guide.

Because it is easy for most of us to relate to the bad behavior and ways we deal with it in children, I’m going to use our perspective of the adult to child relationship to further explain.

Assuming that a child knows the protocol in a certain situation, when they choose to act out or behave in ‘unacceptable ways’, they are of course wanting attention but, more specifically, they’re calling out for love. In the moment that they are making a ‘less than’ choice they do not feel whole, happy and complete, and are in fact looking for something outside of themselves to find love and validation. Whether it’s wanting a candy bar at the check out counter, repeatedly interrupting conversations with personal demands or throwing emotional fits when it’s time to leave the amusement park, in each of these moments, the child does not know how to cope with the level of separation or incompleteness they are feeling in their system.