How to Heal a Broken Relationship
HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP
While it may sound a bit cliche… there is a great deal of value in making your life choices from a place of love, especially when it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships.
For example, I frequently work with couples going through relationship challenges, and in our sessions together, I usually discover that while they (really do) love each other, they are choosing not to focus on positive ideas about one another, or interacting with their partner in love.
This may look something like intentionally searching for all the ways their partner doesn’t say, do, or sometimes even think the “right” things… then deciding that “because you’re not performing exactly the way I believe you should, you must not love me”… which eventually leads to “demonizing” their partner on some level, breaking down the quality of the connection they once shared.
To heal this type of self-defeating thought-stream, the first thing I invite them to do is to choose from love, for themselves.
When we “hate” someone, it’s like us drinking poison, and expecting the other person to die… as Source within you doesn’t differentiate as to whether you’re talking about yourself, or another.
Hence, telling yourself over and again how awful your partner is… how much they undervalue you… and complaining to yourself and others about the lack of loving attention you’re receiving, is the equivalent of writing a nightmare in your head… and blaming your current state of fear on them.
SO… for the record, no matter what… it takes TWO in every situation to create the state of a relationship… so if you want to do your part to heal it… you must begin by CHOOSING FROM LOVE!
HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP TIP ::
If there is a person in your life that you love, (lover, spouse, friend, or family member) and just can’t seem to reconnect with them in the way you want, stop forcing the situation with words and actions, and start the process of loving them from within! ~ ♥ M
Everyday, for the next 30-40 days, write a list of 10 to 20 things you LOVE about this person. You can start with general things, physical traits, old memories, and then let the ideas flow. This will help jump-start your mind to search for all the ways you connect with this person, all the reasons to love them, and all the ways you do feel happy when they’re around.
Just as you talked yourself into believing they weren’t coming from love (maybe because you weren’t either??), you can talk yourself into believing that they are… hence, creating the loving connection that brought you together in the first place.