Practice Being Kinder – To YOURSELF
Did you know that there is a direct correlation between how kind, patient, and loving you are with yourself, and the way you treat others?
When you choose to be in, let’s say, “perfectionist” mode, berating yourself for certain things not going how you had planned them, while carrying this belief that everything must be perfect in order for you to be worthy of love and respect – you’re probably pretty ornery, nit-picking at everyone around you to “be better,” which makes you miserable inside, and NO FUN to be with.
Perfection is the lowest ideal to strive for, because there is no way of attaining it.
~ M. McKean
Conversely, when you choose to “go-with-the-flow,” trusting that everything is going to be alright, you tend to be more loving and compassionate with yourself during the process, making the experience better for everyone, including YOU!
When you’re able to acknowledge, at the deepest levels possible, that you are an amazing human-being… valuable, worthy, lovable, respectable, AND – a constant work in progress, it helps you to treat those around you with the same type of love and care.
Over the next few days, when expectations and emotions can run “high,” be kind to you. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to MAKE things go a certain way. Don’t take it personally if not everyone around you is feeling the holidays from your exact point of view. And, if you find yourself still being a little bit impatient or short-tempered with yourself and others, try some of the following tips ::
Have a plan, but don’t be ridged about it :: While you may have your holiday plans scheduled down to the very minute that someone is opening their presents or eating dessert, allow for flexibility in how your experiences unfold. Remember, the key to having a good time, is to HAVE A GOOD TIME, and enjoy everything that you’re manifesting – NOTHING HAS TO BE PERFECT for you to enjoy it.
Don’t take anything personally :: There are as many ways to live life as there are people living it. Hence, you can’t expect that everyone in your plans is going to want to celebrate their day exactly how you do. So, rather than getting your knickers-in-a-knot because someone wants to through their ideas for celebrating into the pot, R-E-L-A-X and enjoy what unfolds.
Pretend you REALLY love and value yourself :: I’m not saying you don’t love you – but, when you’re trying to be a “perfectionist” you’re not acting loving. So, if you feel yourself being triggered, ask yourself, “If I REALLY loved myself, how would I show up here?” and see if you’re able to self-soothe until you can get back to a place of “Feeling Good!”
Lots of love, peace, + happiness!